While struggling to come to terms with my grief and in a vulnerable state, I found myself in a very destructive relationship.
Advanced Clearing Energetics is now a major part of my therapy work and has been since Richard Flook developed this beautiful and elegant therapy. The reason why I use this technique in my own practice is simple…. it helps people, it really helps people. My own personal experience with what we now know was the beginning of ACE began in 2009. I was still struggling with the loss of my husband, the love of my life. He was playing in the garden with our youngest daughter when he had a massive fatal heart attack, there was no warning whatsoever. He was 41, I was 35 years old and our children were 8 and 14. While struggling to come to terms with my grief and in a vulnerable state, (although I did not realise it at the time) I found myself in a very destructive relationship.
How Advanced Clearing Energetics has helped me…
Knowing I needed to end this relationship, but feeling totally unable to do so I began a quest to heal myself. I attended one of Richard’s courses and little did I know it was to have such a profound effect on me. We all worked on specific issues, mine was why couldn’t I end this destructive relationship. As Richard asked me to tune into different organs of my body I remember thinking I am going to sort this out now, I just knew it was time to deal with this. When he asked the question “what am I gaining by staying in this relationship” it hit me. By being in a miserable relationship I could remain unhappy . It meant I did not have to worry about the negative consequences of being happy or rather what I perceived to be the negative consequences because to me if I was happy as I had been with my husband something bad would happen, so don’t be happy and nothing bad can happen. This may sound crazy if you have not experienced it yourself but that is exactly how I felt.
Immediately after this realisation my body experienced some very strange things, palpatations in my heart, sweating, almost feeling paralysed, barely able to move, I could feel my body changing but I was not afraid in fact I was extremely calm. Then my ankles began to swell to almost double their normal size at which point Richard’s enthusiasm at seeing these changes taking place called everyone on the course to come and look, I have to admit at this point I did actually swear at him! I suddenly needed the toilet I literally had three people almost carrying me there. Gradually, things started to calm down and after a nights rest I felt totally different and I knew the relationship was finally over and I was able to move through my grief.
On my return home I was greeted with the words “ I’m leaving you” – I had done it!!! and I didn’t have to say a thing. From this first experience with the beginnings of ACE as we know it today my life has dramatically changed for the better. I now have a wonderful partner, two happy daughters and a beautiful life in which I use ACE to help others. I specialise in helping people through grief and have written a book on the subject, “Joy Beyond Grief” which will be published in the near future.
Janice Thompson MSc